Marriage

As Christians, it is more important than ever to be praying for people's marriages, especially for those who are going through a difficult season. Here are six prayers for a broken marriage.

Prayer is a powerful tool that connects us directly to the heart of God. Amid mental health challenges within marriage, we can come together as spouses, hand in hand, and pour out our burdens, fears, and struggles before the throne of grace.

Currently, there are many misconceptions of what marriage “is” circulating throughout our culture, confused and mistaken beliefs that try to change the meaning and significance of this holy union. Sadly, it’s drifting further and further away from God’s original design.Yet Ephesians 5:31 explains the beauty and simplicity of God’s design for marriage, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”Because our culture is at work redefining, deconstructing, and redesigning God’s marital plan with varying ideas, it’s more important than ever to look at what marriage isn’t.Below are seven things marriage isn’t, helping couples navigate through the muddled definitions and chart a clear course towards establishing a biblical marriage in today’s world:Photo Credit: ©Getty Images/mofles

Celebrating another year shared with the one your soul loves is so important! Celebration is holy work. It breaks up the mundane and reminds us of the love we have been gifted. We are so quick to forget that God has put you together and that he is writing a beautiful story with your shared lives.

“Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” is a phrase you may have heard.While this phrase can exemplify gender stereotypes in a negative way, it is true for all humans that when we are hurt our natural response is anger, indignation, and it can be a struggle to find room in our hearts to forgive.I know when I start feeling “wronged” by my husband, I start answering his questions with cold one-word answers, I shoot annoyed glares his way, and when he finally asks what is wrong I tend to angrily unload my frustration on him.Despite knowing that my “go to” responses to frustrating situations help no one in our home, it is a struggle to not let anger and resentment harden my heart.Pausing to evaluate our feelings first, is a better way to handle the moments when we feel hurt, unseen, or betrayed by our partners. When we just let our reflex of anger drive our conversations, we only end up adding insult to injury.Taking a moment to pause and pray can help us find a better path forward in our relationships that hopefully leads to healing and reconciliation.Is This Phrase in the Bible?No, this phrase is not in the Bible. This saying originates from The Mourning Bride, a tragic play by English playwright William Congreve from 1697. The whole line actually reads “Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned.”This phrase has been interpreted to mean that a woman who has felt rejected or betrayed can be a powerful force of anger.Here are a few ideas of what not to do when you feel scorned by your significant other.Photo Credit: ©Unsplash/Christian Fregnan

In this over-sexed and under-loved world, people are looking for the real deal, the secret to lasting love with a vibrant sex life. Because of this pursuit for a purer passion, the most asked question we get when it comes toRed Hot Monogamy is,“What is okay with God?”First and foremost, sex is for marriage. Ephesians 5:31-32 (quoting Genesis) "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 reinforces this with the reminder, “It is God’s will that you keep away from sexual sin as a mark of your devotion to him” (1 Thessalonians 4:3, GW).So the place to begin if you are single is to value your future sexual love by protecting your present integrity. Bill and I said “Yes!” to obeying God’s guidelines before marriage by wholesome dating with lots of safety, being together—in public: walks on the beach, picnics in a park, lunch at sidewalk café, candlelit dinner by the fire in a nice restaurant—public places before marriage will protect private moments after marriage.For married couples, God gives only a few clear commands on what is and isn’t permissible with the gift of sex he created. Instead of a list of “no-no’s” let’s look at his guidelines in the affirmative:

I will be the first to say I never thought I would fight this hard for my marriage.During our engagement days I had starry-eyed dreams of my future husband and I coming together in perfect unity the moment the wedding ceremony ended. The only baggage following us would be the fun luggage we would use on our honeymoon. These were high hopes really. Common hopes.What I’ve come to find is that marriage is both a blessing and a battle – a gift and a giving away of yourself, all of which can bring about God’s glory. Marriage cultivates on holy ground, where two become one and both are coupled to Christ. At least, this is how our kind God designed it to be.But we know we live in a fallen world, one where relationships are imperfectly scarred and hurts run long and deep. Marriages have the capacity to dissolve in the aftermath of continued disappointment. I know mine was on the track leading to divorce for over a decade. If it weren’t for the mighty workings of our faithful God, we may not be together today.Photo Credit: © Getty Images/mictian

No matter how much a baby has been prayed for or wanted, there's no way around the profound ways pregnancy and having a baby change the marriage relationship! Many of the changes are wonderful! Some of those changes are wonderful but sort of like a refining furnace for your relationship.

Some like to think marriage and friendship are best kept in different beds. However, marriage between best friends takes both matrimony and friendship to a whole new level. Here are 5 of the best things about marrying your best friend.

Marriages will always be at risk of the silent marriage killer: complacency. It sneaks in without being noticed, and it becomes acceptable because it's not particularly distasteful or traumatic. Routine. Part of life. Until you discover that complacency has led to drifting away from each other.

Displaying God’s love is a choice. We can successfully do so by choosing to allow the Spirit to guide us. We choose to accept and outwardly demonstrate God’s description of love so we can apply it to all that we do, including in our personal relationships.

Farmers Insurance had it right when they said, “We know a thing or two, because we’ve seen a thing or two.” They have seen the best and worst of humanity. If you care to marvel at the weirdness of the world, you can even take a moment to check out the “Hall of Claims” they have at their website.As for me, my Hall of Claims tally comes nowhere near the number of strange stories Farmers has to share. But after fifteen years of working as a counselor with couples and families, I’ve experienced quite a few “thing or two” moments. I’ve lost count of the number of disagreements we’ve navigated together and the number of marriage problems I have helped detangle.Regardless of the specific “flavor” of an argument in marriage, there are common themes among all marriage problem. Most people seem to believe that sex and money are two of the greatest issues facing couples. And while those are certainly important, there are others that are also struggling to reconcile.Here are 5 of the most common marriage problems, along with tips and solutions to keep your relationship healthy.Photo Credit: ©Unsplash/Justin Follis

As a spouse, you will need to pray daily for your spouse, so it is important to begin that practice before you even know this person. We are called to pray for one another. Especially as a spouse, lifting your earthly dearest up in prayer as often as possible is vital. When you start any sort of habit, cultivating, fostering, and growing will take time, but the sooner you start, the more routine it will become.

If you're experiencing an unhappy marriage, here are 8 things to remember from the Bible. May the Word of God help you to solve your marital issues.

Time, familiarity, baggage and life’s transitions can all wear on a marriage and make you feel like you’ve lost that loving feeling. But, it’s not too late to fall back in love with your spouse no matter how little or how long you’ve been married.

Christians, share these comforting and strengthening passages with families suffering through miscarriage. We can also comfort unbelievers with the same passages, assuring our beloved ones of the hope we have in Christ.

While sinful people may use sex in sinful ways, married sex is not sinful or shameful. To overcome the triggers of past abuse, look for reflections of Jesus in your spouse.

Loneliness is sneaky and can creep in even when we arent dissatisfied with our spouse. Read on to see 5 practical ways to kick loneliness out of your marriage.

You love God, are committed to living for him, and have a strong marriage. You and your husband have good jobs and a home waiting to be filled. There is only one thing missing – children. You and your husband want children and have been praying that God bless you with a family.Time passes, and you watch as, one by one, women all around you excitedly announce they are expecting. You attend baby shower after baby shower and work hard to rejoice with those sweet friends who are rejoicing and celebrating their precious gift of a new family member.

With a husband deployed and our third child’s due date facing me, several friends rallied. Some watched our two older children until my parents arrived in town. Another friend drove with me to the hospital. A few stayed with me as I labored unsuccessfully, and one even stayed the night at the hospital, then attended the birth in the operating room the following day. They showed up. And we can too.